I used to approach manifestation like I was storming a castle. I’d set my intention, grit my teeth, and force my way toward my goals with pure willpower and determination. And if it felt too hard, I’d give up before even trying.
When I did manage to barge my way, it was exhausting. And most of the time, it didn’t work. When it did work, it often came with unintended or even disastrous consequences – like getting exactly what I asked for, but in the worst possible form. (Sounds familiar?)
Then I learned about coordinating intention—the Reality Transurfing approach that changed how I create everything in my life.
What Is Coordinating Intention?
Coordinating intention is about aligning your inner state with your desired outcome before taking action. It’s not just about what you want, but the energy state from which you pursue it.
Think of it like this: traditional manifestation says “decide what you want and go get it.” Coordinating intention says “become the person who already has it, then act from that state.”
The key word here is “coordinating” – you’re coordinating (aligning, harmonizing) your intention with the variation of reality you want to experience. You’re not creating something new or forcing reality to bend to your will. You’re tuning yourself to match the frequency of what already exists in the space of variations.
When you coordinate intention properly, there’s a feeling of rightness, of flow. When you’re forcing, there’s stress, anxiety, and a sense of pushing against resistance.
The Energy You Bring Matters More Than The Action You Take
Here’s something I learned the hard way: the energy state you’re in while pursuing something determines what you actually receive – often more than the actions themselves.
When you’re trying to manifest something because you feel you don’t have it, you’re creating from a space of lack, operating from deficiency, from emptiness, from need. And that energy of lack is what gets amplified and returned to you.
A few years ago, I desperately wanted a new job. I was miserable in my current role and felt like I needed to escape immediately. I applied frantically to dozens of positions, crafted what I thought were perfect cover letters, and went into interviews in a state of barely-concealed desperation.
My energy was screaming: “Please hire me, I need this so badly, I’ll do anything, just get me out of where I am.”
I got a job offer. And for the first few weeks, I was relieved. But within a month, I realized I’d landed in something even worse than what I’d left. The culture was toxic, the expectations were unrealistic, and I felt trapped again – but this time with less hope because I’d already “escaped” once.
What happened? According to Reality Transurfing, I manifested from the energy of desperation, stress, and escape. My intention wasn’t coordinated with “the perfect role where I’m valued and fulfilled” – it was coordinated with “anything to get away from this pain.”
The universe gave me exactly what my energy was asking for: another painful situation to potentially escape from.
The Difference Between Forcing and Coordinating
Let me break down what was happening energetically:
When I was forcing (desperate job search):
- Inner state: Anxious, desperate, feeling “not good enough”
- Energy: Frantic, grasping, fearful
- Action: Applying everywhere, saying yes to everything, no discernment
- Result: Got hired from that desperate energy, attracted a desperate situation
What coordinating intention would have looked like:
- Inner state: Calm certainty that the right role exists
- Energy: Grounded, confident, selective
- Action: Applying to aligned opportunities, interviewing as an equal, trusting the process
- Result: Attracting a role that matches that confident, valued energy
The actions might look similar on the surface (applying for jobs, going to interviews), but the energy behind them creates completely different outcomes. Voila!
Traditional Goal-Setting vs. Coordinating Intention
Traditional goal-setting says: “Decide what you want, make a plan, and push through obstacles until you get it.”
Coordinating intention says: “Align your inner state with your desired outcome, then take inspired action from that alignment.”
It sounds similar, but the energy is completely different.
When I was trying to force outcomes, I was constantly swimming upstream. I’d set goals and then battle my way toward them, seeing every obstacle as something to overcome through sheer determination.
When I started coordinating my intention, it felt like floating downstream—still moving forward, but with the current instead of against it. The obstacles didn’t disappear, but I navigated them differently because I was operating from a state of alignment rather than force.
My Struggle with the “Bigger Home” Slide
My family lives in a multigenerational home that’s… cozy. I’ve been sliding toward a bigger space where everyone can have room to breathe and be themselves.
But here’s the challenge: my husband doesn’t want to take a mortgage. He values being debt-free and doesn’t want the stress that comes with a mortgage. This is where the old me would have created massive internal conflict—feeling stuck between my desire for space and his desire for financial peace.
With coordinating intention, I’m approaching this differently. Instead of trying to force a solution or feeling frustrated by the “obstacle,” I’m coordinating my intention with a version of reality where both needs are met: spaciousness AND financial peace.
My old approach would have been: obsess over ever increasing house prices, calculate mortgage payments that I can’t afford, try to convince him we need to buy now before prices increase and create tension in our relationship (or internally by stresssing) over this difference.
With coordinating intention, I do something different. I align my inner state with already having the spacious home we need—without attachment to HOW it happens. I feel the peace of everyone having their own space. I feel the satisfaction of financial security. Not just visualise it but sense it all in 5D (I love this visualisation tip from Reality Rransurfing). I hold both desires as equally valid and trust that a solution exists in the space of variations that honors both.
I stay open to creative possibilities: while the universe figures our the ‘how’.
The key is I’m not coordinating my intention with “convince my husband to take a loan” or “force a purchase to happen.” I’m coordinating with “spacious, peaceful living that works for our whole family financially and emotionally.”
What Coordinating Intention Actually Looks Like
Here’s the practical breakdown:
Step 1: Feel the End State: Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, spend time feeling what it’s like to already have what you want. Not just visualizing it, but embodying the emotional state of that reality.
Step 2: Check Your Energy: Before taking any action, ask yourself: “What energy am I bringing to this? Am I acting from alignment or anxiety? From calm confidence or desperation?”
Step 3: Act from That State: When you take action, do it from the energy of already being in your desired variation. If you’re looking for love, interact with people from the energy of someone who’s already loved and secure. If you want abundance, make financial decisions from abundance consciousness, not scarcity.
Step 4: Stay Flexible: Coordinating intention means being open to how your desire manifests. You’re clear on the what and the feeling, but flexible about the how.
When I Learned to Job Search Differently
Years after that desperate job search disaster, I found myself looking for a new role again. But this time, I understood coordinating intention.
Instead of frantically applying everywhere, I first spent time aligning my inner state. Every morning, I’d sit quietly and feel into what it would be like to be in a role where I was valued, trusted, and properly compensated. I didn’t visualize a specific company or title – I focused on the feeling state.
When I looked at job postings, I checked my energy first: “Am I considering this from desperation or discernment?” If I felt that grasping, anxious energy, I’d pause and realign before taking any action.
In interviews, I showed up as someone who was exploring whether this was a mutual fit – not as someone desperate to be chosen. I was coordinating my intention with “valued professional” not “please save me from my current situation.”
The difference was tangible. I received offers from that aligned state, and when I accepted my current role, it matched the energy I’d been coordinating with: valued, trusted, and well compensated.
The Magic of Inspired Action
When you’re truly coordinating intention, action doesn’t feel forced. It feels inspired, obvious, even inevitable. You know those time when hours go by unnoticed, when you are doing something you enjoy?
You’re not pushing yourself to do things—you’re pulled toward them because they align with who you’re becoming.
Last month, I was looking for a new yoga class. Instead of researching every studio in the city (my old approach), I coordinated intention. I felt into what it would be like to be in a yoga class that incorporates mindfulness and mediation.
Three days later, I found a flyer in my post for a heavily discounted gym membership which also had yoga classes. The yoga class teacher turned out to be exactly what I’d been feeling toward. Coincidence? Maybe. But when you’re coordinating intention, these “coincidences” happen a lot more often.
Common Mistakes with Coordinating Intention
Trying to control the timeline: You align with the feeling, then get impatient when it doesn’t manifest immediately. Trust the process.
Mixing in doubt: You practice feeling abundant, then immediately worry about money. The doubt cancels out the coordination.
Forgetting to take action: Coordination isn’t passive. You still need to act, just from alignment instead of desperation.
Being too attached to specific outcomes: You want love, so you coordinate intention around a specific person instead of the feeling of being loved. Stay open to how your desire wants to manifest.
Your Coordinating Intention Practice
Pick something you’ve been trying to force in your life. Maybe it’s a relationship, career change, health goal, or creative project.
For the next week, try coordinating intention instead:
- Morning Alignment: Spend 5 minutes feeling what it’s like to already have what you want
- Check Your Energy: Before taking any related action, ask “Am I acting from alignment or anxiety?”
- Follow Inspiration: Notice what actions feel inspired and natural, not forced
- Trust the Process: Let go of controlling exactly how and when it happens
Remember: you’re not trying to make something happen through willpower. You’re aligning with what wants to happen through you.
What would change in your manifestation practice if you stopped forcing and started flowing?
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